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◉ 7 Tips For De-Escalating Road Rage

Road rage incidents are on the rise, posing serious risks on our roads. As stress and frustration build in congested traffic, drivers may express their anger through dangerous driving behaviors. However, understanding the causes and implementing strategies for de-escalation can significantly enhance safety for everyone on the road.

Understanding Road Rage

Road rage differs from aggressive driving, although the two are related. Aggressive driving includes behaviors like speeding, weaving through traffic, and tailgating. Road rage, however, escalates these actions into more violent and potentially deadly encounters, including physical confrontations and intentional collisions.

Incidents of road rage are increasing alarmingly, with some leading to severe consequences including fatalities. For instance, the Illinois State Police note a sharp increase in expressway shootings classified as road rage incidents. Recognizing the early signs of aggressive driving in oneself and others can be key to preventing escalation.

Below are 7 tips that can help:

1. Stay Calm: Keeping your cool can prevent a situation from escalating. Take deep breaths and maintain focus on your driving rather than on the aggressive behavior of others.

2. Avoid Eye Contact: Engaging with an aggressive driver, even through eye contact, can be perceived as a challenge. Focus on the road and keep your emotions in check.

3. Practice Defensive Driving: Anticipate potential problems and keep a safe distance from erratic drivers. Be aware of your surroundings and adjust your driving accordingly.

4. Use Communication Wisely: Non-confrontational gestures, like a polite wave or a nod, can sometimes ease tensions. Avoid inflammatory language or gestures that might provoke other drivers.

5. Let Aggressive Drivers Pass: If another driver is persistently tailgating or attempting to engage aggressively, it’s safer to let them pass. This can diffuse potential conflicts.

6. Don’t Retaliate: Escalation often leads to dangerous outcomes. Even if provoked, try not to respond with similar behavior. This includes refraining from aggressive maneuvers like brake checking or speeding up to prevent someone from merging.

7. Call for Help if Necessary: If you feel threatened by another driver, keep your doors locked and windows up, and contact authorities when safe to do so. If followed, drive to a public place or a police station rather than going home.

Legal Considerations and Consequences

In many places, while road rage itself isn’t specified as a crime, the behaviors comprising it, like harassment and reckless driving, are illegal. These actions can lead to significant legal consequences, including fines and imprisonment.

Community and Police Efforts

Local law enforcement agencies are aware of the rising road rage incidents and are ramping up patrols and traffic law enforcement. Public awareness campaigns are also crucial in educating drivers about the dangers of road rage and the importance of courteous driving.

Road rage can be a terrifying experience, but with the right knowledge and skills, drivers can protect themselves and others. By practicing patience, maintaining calm, and using defensive driving techniques, we can all contribute to making our roads safer.

Remember, getting home safely is far more important than getting ahead in traffic. Let’s share the road with kindness and respect.

Defensive driving is a trait that is hard to teach to many drivers. Frustration at the behaviors of other drivers or simply wanting to move faster is often an innate aspect of a driver’s personality. However, there are simple ways that you can tone down your aggressiveness and learn how to become a safer, more defensive driver.

Assessing Your Driving Aggressiveness

Sometimes, it’s hard to know whether or not you’re truly an aggressive driver or if you just have a few aggressive driving tendencies. Take the following quiz to assess your aggressiveness. And be honest with each question:

  • Do you yell at other drivers for driving slowly or for passing you?
  • Are rude gestures a regular occurrence when another driver misbehaves?
  • Do you tailgate slow drivers instead of giving them a safe braking distance?
  • When you see a yellow light do you slow down or hit the gas?
  • Do you honk your horn when someone is slow to respond to a green light?
  • Have you ever passed multiple cars in two-lane driving, narrowly missing an accident?
  • Has your behavior ever caused an accident?

If you answered “yes” to even a few of these questions, you are likely an aggressive driver. Now that you understand that, you can work at eliminating these problematic and dangerous behaviors.

Building Focus and Alertness

Many aggressive driving traits occur because someone isn’t carefully paying attention to the road. As a result, they are surprised when driving conditions change, get afraid, and fly into a “flight or fight” mode, where everyone is an enemy.

Cultivating a sense of focus and alertness not only eliminates those dangerous “fight” moments, but also gives you time to relax in a safe and defensive manner.

As a result, cutting back on driving distraction is a necessity. Eliminate these behaviors to increase your driving focus and alertness:

  • Talking on the phone
  • Texting
  • Changing CDs or radio stations
  • Reading billboards
  • Doing makeup or adjusting your mirrors
  • Looking at passengers

Don’t Consider Other Drivers the “Enemy”

Driving is not a race: you’re not competing with anyone, but yourself. Aggressive drivers treat other cars like “the enemy,” a problematic behavior that endangers everyone’s life. This is particularly true of cyclists: they especially require defensive driving!

Remember: other drivers are just people like you. They are trying to get somewhere safely so they can continue to live their lives. So if someone is passing you (after riding your bumper for 20 miles), just let them go. And if it looks like they’re going to try to cut you off, slow down and let them in the lane.

Are those behaviors infuriating? Absolutely! But that person is not your enemy: they’re probably someone with little patience who is in a big hurry. They’re an aggressive driver, like you.

Don’t compete with them. Just drive defensively: this will help balance out those behaviors and make the road safer for everyone.

Never Rely on the Good Behavior of Other Drivers

Aggressive drivers are often aggressive people used to getting their way. But what happens if you run into another aggressive driver that won’t let you merge? Or who is willing to run a red light just to get an extra 30 seconds closer to home? What happens then?

Accidents happen. That’s why you can never rely on the good (defensive) behaviors of other drivers. However, if you yourself drive defensively, you can at least rely on yourself to prevent accidents.

Does this mean you might get home a little slower? Probably. But it also means you’ll get home.

Remember: becoming a defensive driver is not only safe for you, it’s safer for everybody on the road. And the only way you can become a defensive driver is by committing to these actions and working towards implementing them every time you drive.

Every day, cases of road rage make the news all over the nation. A recent segment on ABC News describes the “American epidemic” of road rage, and shows shocking video clips of drivers physically attacking one another after being pushed “one step too far” by another driver’s behavior.

With stories like this constantly in the public eye, it’s no surprise that nearly 90% of drivers drivers rate aggressive driving as a somewhat or very serious threat to their personal safety (AAA Foundation). But these sensationalized road rage incidents mask the real, everyday dangers of aggressive driving.

What Is Aggressive Driving?

Despite the high level of concern drivers express about this issue, most don’t even recognize their own aggressive driving behaviors (AAA Foundation). The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration defines aggressive driving as occurring when “an individual commits a combination of moving traffic offenses so as to endanger other persons or property” (Governors Highway Safety Association).

In reality, extreme cases of road rage are unusual, but even driving behaviors that seem commonplace fit the definition of aggressive driving and pose a serious safety risk.

Aggressive driving includes…

  • Speeding, either over the posted limit or too fast for conditions
  • Failure to yield right of way
  • Failure to obey traffic signs or traffic control devices
  • Improper following or tailgating
  • Improper passing
  • Weaving in and out of traffic

In the same survey where 90% of drivers said they considered aggressive driving a serious threat to their safety, the same drivers also admitted to aggressive driving behaviors in the 30 days before they took the survey.

  • 51% reported speeding 15+ MPH over the limit on freeways
  • 25% reported speeding 15+ MPH over the limit on a residential street
  • 37% reported driving through a light that had just turned red when they could have stopped safely

How Dangerous Is It?

Aggressive driving contributes to as many as 56% of fatal crashes (AAA Foundation). Speeding is a factor in almost one third of fatal crashes in the United States, causing an estimated 10,530 deaths in the year 2010 alone (GHSA). According to the Center for Problem Oriented Policing, aggressive drivers kill two to four times more people than drunk drivers.

As a result, 15 states have passed laws defining aggressive driving, or enforce aggressive driving under existing reckless driving laws (GHSA).

“Road rage,” in which drivers assaulted each other with intent to cause physical harm, is less common, with an estimated 10,000 incidents in the past 7 years. Of those incidents, 218 ended in a fatality (AAA Foundation). While aggressive driving is considered a traffic violation, road rage is generally prosecuted as a criminal offense.

What Should I Do?

Assess Your Own Driving

  • Are you an aggressive driver? Many drivers may not realize that their driving behavior is aggressive. Take the AAA Foundation’s Driver Stress Profile Quiz to help you consider your own emotions and behavior behind the wheel.
  • Avoid other common aggressive driving behaviors that can provoke a confrontation, including tailgating, honking, and flashing your lights (National Safety Council).
  • If you’re in the left lane and a driver behind you wants to pass, move over safely and let them (NSC).
  • Avoid cutting other drivers off. Use your turn signal to alert other drivers to your lane change, and make sure you have plenty of room before you merge (AAA Foundation)

Keep Your Cool

  • If you encounter an aggressive driver, give them plenty of room. Don’t attempt to speed up or “hold your own” in the lane. Instead, attempt to safely move out of their way. (The Weather Channel)
  • Avoid eye contact with the aggressive driver, and do not respond to any hand or facial gestures they make to you. (NSC)

Don’t Put Yourself At Risk

If you do feel your safety is threatened by an enraged driver, call the police when it is safe to do so. If the aggressive driver follows you when you pull over or exit the freeway, drive to a police station or other public, well-lit location where you can get help. Don’t get out of your car, and don’t drive home. (AAA Foundation)

Looking for More?

Addressing aggressive driving and road rage is a crucial step towards making our roads safer. For more tips, see the AAA Foundation’s brochure, “Road Rage: How to Avoid Aggressive Driving.”

If you realize you’ve got a problem with aggressive driving, look for courses or self-help books on anger management and stress reduction – these can help you change your attitude and behavior behind the wheel (AAA Foundation).